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A good place to start when exploring feelings around sharing intimate partners…
There are a lot of resources out there on the topic of non-monogamy or polyamory. Out of the books I have read, the one I recommend to start off with is ‘Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships’ by Tristan Taormino. This book should be at the top of your list because it introduces the idea of open relating in such a gentle way and provides helpful guidance for those dealing with non-monogamous-related issues even while orienting in a monogamous way. If you are curious about opening up your relationship but not yet convinced or ready to start actualizing that exploration, start with this book! There are quizzes at the end of the chapters to help guide you to learn about how you relate to relating. Interesting concept, right? Tristan does a great job of introducing the concepts and work that goes along with non-monogamous orientation while not trying to convince anyone that this way of orienting is somehow superior, better or more evolved (a very common mind-set especially among us new-age hippies ; ). There are infinite ways of co-creating relationships and it’s books like this that helps create cultural space for all the options to be shame-free and intellectually available to anyone. If you are monogamously oriented but want to have a better understanding of open relationships so you can be a more supportive platonic friend, this is also a great resource for you!
When I was first exploring open relationships and coupling that exploration with books, ‘The Ethical Slut’ by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy was one of the first I read. This is also a great read and is geared more for those who are already fully interested in an alternatively-oriented relationship structure.
Thank you for helping co-create a more cooperative culture starting with your most personal relationships!